Leave me alone
I'm still amazed by the amount of blogging my other Beyond Bordians have been able to do already. I am so grateful that everyone is all sharing so I can be a part of their journey.
Here in Botswana, I don't have the language barriers. My host family doesn't try to feed me a feast every night. And it's not hot at all here. But we have our fair share of frustrations.
Whenever I go I'm pretty much pointed, stared, and laughed at by people. Yesterday was my first day of work. Nico was nice enough to drop me off in the morning as my workplace is very near Oratile's. After work though, I have to take kombi home. I'm completely okay with these mini buses, the squishing, and yelling out where I want it to stop. What I'm not okay with, was the constant harassment I get from the men. "Hi baby, how are you? Are you married? Can I have you phone number?" When I tell them, "Yes I'm married, and no, I don't have a cell phone.", they continued, "Can I give you my number? Can we hang out? Where are you from? I want to bring you to Zimbabwe". Honestly, 5pm-6pm is the most stressful part of my day. Having to rush home before it gets pitch dark, trying not to get lost (I already did twice), nervous about the laptop and cellphone I have in my bag, and having to deal with the arm grabbing and hi how are you baby.... ahhh!!
And you think it's only on public transport? Nope. Another came to the office this morning. Same thing, "What's your number? Do you work here everyday? Would you like to hang out? Can I give you my number?" OFFICE!! Leave me alone!
There is a lovely children playground at where I work. Today's weather was really nice so I decided I would eat lunch there and read my book. I was also looking forward to playing and chatting with the kids, thinking they're innocent and naive and fun like all other kids. The moment I sat down, they immediately surrounded me, started poking me, going in circles around me... I couldn't eat my lunch so I had to get away from them, in such a rush that I forgot my camera. This boy ran after me and gave me back my camera. Just when I thought how nice he was, he looked up and asked for a kiss! I gave him a disapproval look and turned around. He then hugged me from behind, whacked my bum, giggled and ran away. He's six!!!
It's so annoying. And sometimes scary. Wait for Matt and Maryam to share their versions of being chased down the street and marriage proposals.
Here in Botswana, I don't have the language barriers. My host family doesn't try to feed me a feast every night. And it's not hot at all here. But we have our fair share of frustrations.
Whenever I go I'm pretty much pointed, stared, and laughed at by people. Yesterday was my first day of work. Nico was nice enough to drop me off in the morning as my workplace is very near Oratile's. After work though, I have to take kombi home. I'm completely okay with these mini buses, the squishing, and yelling out where I want it to stop. What I'm not okay with, was the constant harassment I get from the men. "Hi baby, how are you? Are you married? Can I have you phone number?" When I tell them, "Yes I'm married, and no, I don't have a cell phone.", they continued, "Can I give you my number? Can we hang out? Where are you from? I want to bring you to Zimbabwe". Honestly, 5pm-6pm is the most stressful part of my day. Having to rush home before it gets pitch dark, trying not to get lost (I already did twice), nervous about the laptop and cellphone I have in my bag, and having to deal with the arm grabbing and hi how are you baby.... ahhh!!
And you think it's only on public transport? Nope. Another came to the office this morning. Same thing, "What's your number? Do you work here everyday? Would you like to hang out? Can I give you my number?" OFFICE!! Leave me alone!
There is a lovely children playground at where I work. Today's weather was really nice so I decided I would eat lunch there and read my book. I was also looking forward to playing and chatting with the kids, thinking they're innocent and naive and fun like all other kids. The moment I sat down, they immediately surrounded me, started poking me, going in circles around me... I couldn't eat my lunch so I had to get away from them, in such a rush that I forgot my camera. This boy ran after me and gave me back my camera. Just when I thought how nice he was, he looked up and asked for a kiss! I gave him a disapproval look and turned around. He then hugged me from behind, whacked my bum, giggled and ran away. He's six!!!
It's so annoying. And sometimes scary. Wait for Matt and Maryam to share their versions of being chased down the street and marriage proposals.
Labels: Botswana
posted by Ruby Ku at
3:49 PM
4 Comments:
Oh Ruby =( This is something that you could have never been prepared for. It sounds difficult and I know you're struggling with all of this, but I also know that out of anyone, you are someone that is persistant and patient and will not let these frustrations bring you down.
I think this is such a humbling experience and teaches us not to assume anything really. I think this also teaches us the importance of building relationships. I think you should return and continue having lunch and the playground and show the children that they're actions are not going to discourage. You are an amazing person and I know that you have alot of love and kindness to share with them.
You are amazing. One day at a time, I believe in you =)
<3kris
I completely agree with Kristina. Can't blame the kids because they're brought up in ways that are completely differently from ours. I too believe that you will have the patience and endurance to show them respect and kindess.
Nevertheless, be extra extra caution and mindful. I am sure you've heard enough from others.
Can't wait for your next entry!
Wow, talk about culture shock! Not having been there, I'm not sure how much my advice will help. The only thing I can think of is to compare the harassing from the men to dealing with a scary dog. The best thing you can do is just walk by with your head held high and ignore the dog. Chances are it will leave you alone. If it still comes near you, say no forcefully, and hopefully it will go away.
Ironic that I'm comparing these men to dogs haha, but I swear it's just a coincidence. Good luck! I know you're a very strong person. Remember it's okay to let yourself be overwhelmed and sad sometimes, as long as you believe in yourself.
Kristina - I really thought of never eating lunch at the playground again..but I'm glad you're here to tell me to keep going. You're right - instead of avoiding, I should really return and show them I don't appreciate their actions. Kids are kids afterall, and all of them just want a little more attention and care right? Thanks for the reminder Kris..
Fion - It's so true that these kids are brought up differently. In a way, they are forced to grow up too fast, know what I mean? I will be careful..and you're so right...they want respect too..thanks fion..
Sam - you're always the one who remind that it's okay to be me, to feel overwhelmed, and as long as I'm doing what I believe in, no worries. Thank you for making your way here..it means so much..
e-hugs everyone! :p
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